Love – actual love – makes us real to each other. It is as much a light as it is flame, and it calls us back to ourselves. There can’t be love where there is abuse. There isn’t light in that darkness. Stopping the cycle of abuse starts with understanding what love is and what love isn’t.
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r/AbuseInterrupted started as my personal library after Google shuttered Google Reader, and became a project exploring vectors of abuse and power dynamics.
I wanted to stop the cycle of abuse in my own life and in my own family.
Over a decade later, and the subreddit became more than a repository of information, but a place where I worked on deconstructing the underlying elements of not only abuse and abusive systems, but of healing and restoration, and love.
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People give themselves permission to mistreat you
One of the most horrific stories of abuse I’ve ever come across involved a little girl who had been removed from her abusive family, lived with her foster family for several years, and then was returned to the abusive family over the objections of the foster family. The abuse she experienced was horrific. What happened …
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There are some people who believe that if something bad has happened to you, you are ‘broken’ and therefore it’s open season to do bad things to you because you’ve ‘already been broken’.
They believe it gives them a kind of permission. You see this thinking a lot with rapists…
It doesn’t matter if it is your abusive parents, an abusive ‘partner’, or a friend. Their (unreasonable) entitlement is often if you’re free, then your time/energy/resources are free for them
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