Love – actual love – makes us real to each other. It is as much a light as it is flame, and it calls us back to ourselves. There can’t be love where there is abuse. There isn’t light in that darkness. Stopping the cycle of abuse starts with understanding what love is and what love isn’t.
About
r/AbuseInterrupted started as my personal library after Google shuttered Google Reader, and became a project exploring vectors of abuse and power dynamics.
I wanted to stop the cycle of abuse in my own life and in my own family.
Over a decade later, and the subreddit became more than a repository of information, but a place where I worked on deconstructing the underlying elements of not only abuse and abusive systems, but of healing and restoration, and love.
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In a healthy relationship, sex isn’t the only caring touch
‘For people who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) ‘no’ is something we have to earn’ – Jennifer Peepas
Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking …
The three big, common triggers for most CPTSD survivors are feeling trapped, feeling controlled, and feeling ‘in trouble’
They mirror the conditions that make complex trauma ‘complex’: it was inescapable, it unfolded over time, and it permeated our most important relationships. –Glenn Doyle, Instagram
Contact
You can reach me at abuseinterrupted at gmail.com
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