…that they are entitled to punish you.
Or that they ‘just have an anger management problem’ or ‘have trauma’.
That you should work harder – do ‘your part’ – not to ‘make’ them mad.
But plenty of people get angry, every day yet not everyone is violent or harms others.
There is a difference between violence and anger.
And I would also say that there is a type of abuser that is ‘crazymaking’ where they will engage in lighter-seeming provocations for the purpose of triggering an outburst, for the purpose of making the victim seem like the abuser. (A lot of school bullies fit this mold.)
Or, there are many abusers will actually feel and believe that they are the ones ‘walking on eggshells’
…that the victim is engaging in ‘crazymaking behavior’, even though that isn’t reality. (See: Certain abusers delude themselves into thinking that whatever they are doing is a reasonable response to what they perceive you are doing to them)
This is why I always recommend to victims that they never attempt to litigate abuse with the abuser.
The abuser’s mis-perspective of reality and their ego defenses will prevent them from being able to understand that they are abusive. (Not to mention that most victims aren’t good at argumentation, nor should they be, and if they are, the abuser often resorts to physical violence because of their impotence in logic.)