(versus just appearing to be a good person) and they are genuinely concerned on an ethics- and human-level. This can become – as Issendai says – a trap: ‘victims can become trapped by their virtues not their vices’.
Their moral code is often weaponized by the abuser against them to keep them in the abuse dynamic. Victims often have to completely re-examine their understanding of love, loyalty, and goodness in order to leave.