That’s why the difference is so stark when the do finally put their foot down about something. It’s because it is important to them, and they have an expectation that the abuser is their partner and will support them or care the way the victim always did.

See also:
* Abusers and The One Thing: https://abuseinterrupted.com/uncategorized/abusers-and-the-one-thing-the-victim-doesnt-realize-that-the-fact-they-accommodate-the-other-person-so-much-means-they-dont-see-that-pattern-of-controlling-tendencies-2/