It’s worth looking at
- where the standard originates (is it even ‘your’ standard, or did someone else thrust it upon you)
- reasonability for that standard
- the socio-cultural perspective of that standard
- if and how that standard is being used by someone else to power-over you
It is also possible that we have standards for ourselves, that are organically ‘ours’, which we aren’t living up to.
People commonly feel insecure around
- their bodies
- their career
- income
- partner or lack of partner
- intelligence
- emotional expression
…and whether ‘who they are’ is intrinsically okay.